getting unstuck


This has been an interesting year. Exactly a year ago I arrived in Trieste full of optimism and excitement (and joy at seeing my fiance for the first time in two months). But I quickly fell into what I retrospectively call my ‘period of stuckness’. I kind of panicked. In London I had been building towards something in my career but I now felt that I had turned a page and suddenly had to start a new chapter. I had a blank page staring at me and I suddenly had writer’s block, except it was for my life.

Don’t get me wrong things were happening, I was planning a wedding, I was exploring my new city but I felt stuck in what my ‘career’ was going to be. You know that all important part of your ‘you’ which makes you a worthwhile person and a provider to society?

So a little while ago I received an email from Marie of Kit and Caboodle Coaching offering a coaching session. I pondered it for a while and as the month moved on I realised that this ‘gift from the universe’ was something that I could really use. A little bit of guidance and steerage to help me see my stuckness from a different viewpoint. What better way to act like I love myself then giving myself time to work out what is going on in my head.

I had met Marie a few years ago and knew already that she was super approachable and easy to talk to. I practically ran home after dropping my mom at the train station after her visit because I was so excited about our session. Obviously as I don’t live nearby we had a skype chat which we both found worked really well. We were both able to sit down with a cup of tea, pens and paper and get into a very comfortable ‘chatting zone’.

We started off the session by clarifying what I wanted to achieve by the end (something I should perhaps do more in my everyday life) and then moved on to some activities. Over our conversation, Marie was able to pull out things that I was saying and highlight what I was saying back to myself. She turned my ‘stuck period’ into a time of ‘incubation’, a time that I had needed to nest and feel safe. Plus she helped provide some clarity for me now that I was ready to start ‘writing my life’ again.

Our conversation revolved mostly about work because at the moment that is the area I feel I need to concentrate on. Sitting down and having someone asking questions, some easy but some quite hard, and helping you breakdown the answers is really useful. Having that someone be a professional who has done this for a good many years makes it even better because she isn’t your best friend nodding and agreeing with you but someone who will dig down.

The point of coaching isn’t to provide you with the answer or the paths. It is to help steer you towards your answer. I suppose I kind of knew the answers before starting, but perhaps hadn’t been thinking about the questions in the right way. Marie was like the ‘ghost of Christmas present’ helping me to see things a bit more clearly.

I came to some pretty big realisations from the conversation. Like what I need a ‘job’ to provide me with. And that the idea of a ‘career’ doesn’t really fit into my picture of what I want my life to be. And helping me figure out some next steps. Pretty impressive for 90 minutes right!?

Well do you know what is even better, Marie is being a lovely human being and offering you some special discounted sessions. So you know what, you should head over to her site and make that happen! Also you probably want to follow Marie on instagram because she is a creative genius.

kit and caboodle coaching offer

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pear and pomegranate oats

This week my brain has been very busy as I had a coaching session (which I will tell you more about next week), and have started two e-courses so a smaller link list than normal …

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Why you shouldn’t feel guilty about doing what you love (or about a lot of things to be honest). It doesn’t help anyone so take the guilt and make it into something positive.

How to deal with jealousy. I love how La La Lovely suggests using it to make something positive.

Want this guy in my life. I think we’d have a whale of a time (hehehehe).

Have you come across Blog Society. They are pretty cool.

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I have seen a lot of posts for porridge pop up and I got really excited because it has been grey here. But then it got really mild again and I decided it wasn’t porridge weather yet. So I made cold porridge instead. This might not be to everyone’s taste but I really like it. For this version I took my giant wholemeal* oats and stirred in one grated pear. Then I added oat milk to cover (because you know oat milk and oats were kind of made for each other!). Top with some pomegranate and some almonds to create texture and crunch and there you have a ‘porridge’ suitable for those days that aren’t quite cold enough for full on autumn porridge.

* In Italian wholemeal is integrale. The English definition of ‘integral’ is “necessary to make a whole complete; essential or fundamental”. I think that is an important reminder for me on what type of food to eat and why.

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read em and eat - muesli for breakfast by mycreative

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I feel like I am very far from where I want to be in my ‘career’ (and mostly don’t even know where I do actually want to be) but this was an interesting piece to listen to.

An interesting short video on our social media ‘obsessed’ lives.

The lessons from being wrong.

An interesting podcast with Michael Pollan and edible food like substances.

They’re just habits and habits can be changed.

If there was a little girl in my life I would be buying her clothes here. I wish some children’s clothes would come in big people size!

Loved this differentiation between happiness and joy. I don’t suppose it matters what you call either but having an awareness that there is a deeper ‘joy’ lying under whatever you are feeling is uplifting.

All these things to do with chickpeas!

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Much as my instagram feed might deny it, sometimes I do just eat muesli. I like to keep it interesting though. Sometimes it is shop bought and sometimes it is a collection of cereals. I might have it with yoghurt or almond milk or oat milk. Sometimes I have a banana. This week I bought some figs. Throw on some chopped almonds and tahini.

How do you spice up your muesli?

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We have friends visiting us at the moment and I just love the style of breakfast eating where you just throw everything on the table for people to help themselves. Yoghurt, cereals, bread, jams, honeys, etc. It feels like a simple feast. I don’t have my normal type of styled photo because I wanted to capture that instead. In fact I really want to make an effort to capture more of the everyday. It is surprisingly hard.


I always find it interesting reading about willpower. Maybe one day I will put all I have read into action.

On the weekend I came across this repository of recipes which is inspiring my cooking this week. Hello a gazillion new foodie blogs!

I love this reaction to a mistake.

I think I need to make a couple of these tablecloths. I have a nice linen one (bought for a bargain at H&M) that is getting rather stained and think having a few spare tablecloths would be a good idea!

I found this post about instagramming for your business interesting (even though I don’t have a business to instagram about). I particularly like @elisejoy‘s  idea of handwritten promotional posts rather than graphics.

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I started using the MyFitnessPal app again to record my daily eats. Not to be a stickler for sticking to a ‘diet’ which doesn’t exist but just to get a more honest indication of whether I am treating my body like a temple or a landfill. I think at the moment it is probably somewhere inbetween with a lean towards the landfill on some days.

After two days I realised that my calcium consumption levels were pretty low and considering I think my eating was pretty standard for those two days I freaked out a bit.

So for breakfast yesterday I had a generous serving of Greek yoghurt with tahini and honey plus some almonds sprinkled on top. There is also a banana hiding under there because everyone likes banana. I wouldn’t eat yoghurt regularly but it is definitely a good boost every now and again.

If you haven’t considered your calcium intake recently and eat a mostly plant based diet Catherine hit me up with this very timely article from Deliciously Ella and here is a great list of calcium sources from all foods (maybe this is an excuse to eat more pizza!). I think I will also be indulging in a healthy amount of figs in the next few weeks while they are in season.

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I have an ever growing wish list for travelling and Cartegena has just been added to it, and Budapest. The latter might be more likely in the near future.

I am quite taken with these fortune cookie bracelets. Maybe I should get one with my daily mantra on …

How amazing is this watermelon bedding diy from Conversation Pieces?!

How do you make the holiday feeling last?

How to dent the universe.

I love the photography in this autumn lookbook from Cabbage and Roses.

Instagrammer to follow: now this must takes some time and patience but it looks amazing (check it out on your phone)

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I have been going a bit crazy over uva senza semi (seedless grapes) as I haven’t seen them in the markets until now. Even a grape gelato I had a few weeks back still had seeds in them. It is one of those weird eccentricities of the West that we enjoy eating plants which become redundant because they can’t grow from themselves! But anyway … I thought I would throw them in a pancake. Honey was added for ‘moisture’.

I promise one of these weeks I will have something that isn’t a pancake!

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broken breakfast

It was a sort of busy week. I am now working my standard hours at the job but I did some extra tutoring lessons this week and am attempting to get back to more regular blogging, exercise and set aside time for working on my dissertation, Italian and creative projects. On the last three nothing has happened of late (oops). On the exercise I did a Jillian Michaels video on Wednesday and walked like an old lady for the rest of the week. Remind me not to not do Jillian Michaels for a few months again!

I feel it takes a couple of weeks to work into a routine anyway and it is just about testing and changing. Do you have any tips for settling your routine quickly?


This made me giggle.

You don’t have to tick a box.

I could move into Darwin’s House.

How about signing up to Decorator’s Notebook’s newsletter and giving a notebook to a child in need?

Maybe if I can’t find a vintage portrait I might get some more contemporary pieces. Like from Elizabeth Mayville or Clare Elsaesser

Instagrammer to follow: Need a bit of calm in your life? You know how I love a feed which is consistent and @michellelouise__ is doing it with perfect simplicity.

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On Friday we had one of Tim’s tutees around for dinner. Man is it nerve wracking cooking for an Italian! So of course it was probably the worst meal I have made in ages! A dry main and a baking disaster.

The baking disaster was an attempt at what I dubbed ‘a deconstructed autumnal Victoria sponge with an Italian twist’. Perhaps this is where I went wrong. I basically wanted to make sponge cupcakes with a plum sauce and marscapone (because you can’t buy double cream in Italy, or at least that I have found). I used a combination of this recipe and this one but swapped the flours for spelt and buckwheat. I don’t know if it was the ingredient combination or the fact that baking in a gas oven is really hard but the ‘sponge’ was more crispy in texture and broke when I took it out the pan. It still tasted quite good and there were enough ‘good pieces’ to give to our guest without being totally mortified.

I had the leftovers for breakfast!