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home inspiration portrait collection

Every few months my attention turns to decorating my flat. I scour pinterest, stare at the walls for hours and ponder what to do. Sadly, not much happens from that point as generally the budget does not stretch to do the things I dream.

That doesn’t stop me dreaming though. Of late, I particularly like these collections of portraits on the wall. Either a single one in an unexpected place or as a gallery wall. I am thinking a collection might work well stacked on the shelves above our bed. The furniture in the bedroom is really ‘peculiar’ with a shiny black finish and odd layout. I have done very little to the bedroom but am keen to stamp some of our own personality on it.

I’m hoping I can start building a collection from the variety of vintage shops that are around in Trieste but cost might mean I just end up with one. Although something like this looks grand.

Images: 1 | 2 (via) | 3 | 4 (link is broken – anyone know original source?) | 5

happy friday

happy friday light on trieste's buildings

Another Friday has rolled around. It must be the most said line in the English language but wow time flies. On Sunday we have already been married a month! Tim has been giving some English lessons all week but is finished today so we are planning a “home-moon” for the next week before some friends arrive to visit us. We are planning on going out for dinner dates, trying out new coffee shops and apertivo bars, exploring nearby towns and walks we haven’t yet ventured on and spending a day or two at the beach. So kind of the things you would do on honeymoon. I would love any ideas of what you did (or might do) on your honeymoon so that I can bring into our week.

Aside from that here are some links for your weekend perusal:

  • An older blog post that I came across on pinterest about “the Kinfolk life“. Definitely worth remembering (especially when you look at your rental home and bemoan the fact that it is not your dream home).
  • In the same vain I love Lulu’s post about creating amazing spaces with what you have. Definitely need to experiment with this in our flat.
  • Some interesting thoughts on blogging and data.
  • If you are into yoga you might want to enter this competition, plus I love Freya’s stealth method of exercise.
  • I love the imagination that is used in making this tiny house, particularly the kitchen. I really think that constraints make for the best promoters of creativity.

Happy weekend all!

wedding-mixed-feelings-mycreative

Our wedding day was one of the most awesome days ever! Obviously marrying the love of my life was amazing but on top of that the support and love of some very special people made the day one that just felt like a party all about love. In all honesty, however, I mostly hated the whole wedding process and I wanted to talk about that here because I don’t feel like it is something I have seen shared or discussed very much (at least on the blogs that I read).

For months in the run up to the wedding my anxiety levels had been higher than I ever remember them being. I was sleeping badly. I was feeling unmotivated. I wasn’t looking forward to my wedding. Of course I couldn’t wait to pledge the rest of my life to a man that I deeply love but I only seemed to get a pit in my stomach when thinking about our wedding day rather than a bubbling over with excitement reaction.

I found this confusing and frustrating. This was not what I had imagined and it was certainly not what the internet had suggested I would feel about my wedding day!

I’ve been pondering why I have felt this way and thought that I would share. Maybe I am not the only one.

>>> Perhaps most importantly, our wedding day changed drastically from its original conception. When Tim proposed out of the blue we both decided we were not keen on a big wedding and decided that we would “kind of elope”. We started planning a very small wedding with parents and siblings in Rome. I was incredibly excited about this because it felt really intimate and … hello Rome! Anyway that turned out not to be feasible and with us moving to Italy shortly afterwards anyway it seemed to make sense to have the wedding where we could celebrate with more of our friends. We kept the ceremony smallish but now we also had to plan a party. I guess the same might happen if your family feel they have a strong say in what is happening with your wedding.

>>> Weddings are stressful. They cost a lot of money. You have to ‘entertain’ a bunch of people. As someone who wanted people to enjoy themselves on the wedding day (which I don’t think is an unusual request) it creates a lot of pressure. Not being in the country added some stress. Not having a job definitely added more, particularly when costs started to rise.

>>> A lot of special people were not able to make our day. I suppose that will always be the case when you live thousands of miles from the place you were born. I obviously do not hold against them the fact that they weren’t there and everyone who attended is very special to me too but at points I kind of wondered ‘what was the point’.

I am glad to say that in the month leading up to my wedding I started to focus less on all the money we were spending and more on the beautiful day we were going to have. (Although the week before the wedding was also pretty full on and exhausting too).

It kind of started when we sat down and wrote our vows together. This really helped to solidify what the day was all about. We also decided that in the gap between the ceremony and the reception we would take time for ourselves. Although a wedding is a public declaration of your intent to stay together for the rest of your lives it was important for us to also have time alone to celebrate with just the two of us.

I also really started to relax once I had tried on my wedding dress for the first time (less than four weeks from the wedding day). I went one Sunday when I was in London to my friend who was making it and over the course of the day she sewed and I pulled the dress on and off about 100 times. I had never doubted her abilities but was concerned that this dress that we had kind of created from our minds would in the end be awful. And occasionally I would doubt my choice of colour. But when I tried it on for the last time at the fitting I knew I had made the right decisions. Big sigh of relief.

I’ve heard that planning the wedding can be a real test of a relationship and though we did have some arguments (honestly around things that we have argued about before and will probably be the same arguments we have for rest of our lives) I think in the end the experience has brought us closer together. So not too bad in the end.

Have you had the same feelings? Or the opposite? I’d love to hear

[Picture is a screen grab from some video footage taken by a friend. Photos will still be a while.]

happy friday

happy friday beach umbrellas

It is a kind of strange time of year. Tim is on holiday until the end of August. At which point I also start working. So post wedding there is a ‘new swing’ to get back into to. Which mostly feels like holiday and has me being very unproductive. Again! That said I am enjoying time with my new husband post our familymoon.

It will still be a bit sporadic around here for a while but I had a growing list of links to share. Due to not posting a happy Friday for some weeks now I have a jolly list of links to share with you this week. Some are a bit older but hopefully they are still of interesting

And you will also find I have been popping up on other blogs lately. Byrony included me in her new series on seaside bloggers (such a great idea!) and Catherine had me tell you what I get up to on a weekend.

cy twombly bacchus

While in London the week before the wedding we visited the Tate Modern and wondered into their rooms on ‘Energy and Process’. Cy Twombly is one of my favourite painters and I had some lessons for life reaffirmed while looking at a room of his works including the Bacchus Series.

cy twombly bacchus - go big or go home

>>> Go big or go home. Don’t play small!

cy twombly bacchus - off the edge

>>> Don’t be afraid to go off the ‘edges’ (not in a crazy way but more colour outside the box sense)

cy twombly bacchus - do over

>>> It is okay to paint over and start again

wedding herbs

So I have now been married for over two weeks which is still a bit weird but also incredibly lovely. Our wedding wasn’t totally traditional (does everyone say that?) so I thought I would share some thoughts:

>>> You don’t need to wear the world’s most expensive dress to feel like a million dollars. In fact you can get a talented friend to make it, have an adventure buying fabric from a lady who only speaks Italian and insists you don’t need more than 2 metres of fabric, not have an actual pattern and spend less than £200.

>>> You don’t need a wedding cake but if your mom decides to make one last minute that works too.

>>> You don’t need to have bridesmaids and groomsmen. All the people who came to our wedding helped out and were awesome. Not having to worry about the extra stress of outfits, presents, activities etc led to a much calmer me and just being able to spend time alone with Tim on our wedding day made me feel super relaxed.

>>> You can leave the house on the morning of your wedding and have your hair and makeup done in a ‘salon’. I went to Blow Ltd and spent a fraction of the price on having my hair and make up done. Even taking into consideration a test visit.

>>> You can arrive at your wedding ceremony in a minicab you booked that morning.

>>> You can see the guests before you walk down the aisle. We got married at a registry office and I loved seeing and greeting people before we walked down the aisle. It took some of the ‘look at me I’m the centre of attention’ stress off.

>>> You and your future spouse can walk down the aisle together.

>>> You can leave the ceremony by train and use the cancelled train and half an hour wait on the platform as a chance to catch up with people.

>>> You don’t have to plan a first dance but can dance to the second song that the band plays because people still kind of expect it.

>>> You don’t have to have speeches.

>>> You can serve vegetarian food from amazing caterers and get a heap of comments even from staunch meat eaters.

>>> Love is the best ingredient for a lovely wedding day. The love you have for each other but also importantly the love of your friends and family in helping set up, clear up, deal with your manias, party hard and so much more.

p.s. I’ve got a few wedding related posts in my mind. It will be a while until I have some wedding photos but will share a few when I get them.